I was recently with some close friends and our discussion among other things, shifted to the subject of love. What do you look for? Why get married at all in this day and age?
I wanted more time to provide a more enlightened spiritual answer so I just highlighted the safety advantages of it in today’s freewheeling, promiscuous society.
Later when I got home that night, I gave the issue more serious thought. The piece I crafted relates to a post on one my other sites entitled I yearn to be complete… (http://wp.me/p2hekR-3L).
It discusses the union of man and woman under the Eyes of God (SWT). It is not just about lust or that “feel good” sensation. It is about the two people pairing together from a biological standpoint to allow for the possibility of procreation. But it is deeper than that. Man is different from woman. They think differently. They approach problems differently. For the most part, they act differently. Together, they form a complete unit and can do just about anything. Starting with one man and woman, you can repopulate the entire planet!
It is this “completion” that I think we should be seeking. In that special moment of heightened passion in the midst of that sensual bliss people have been known to evoke God (SWT)’s name. Have you ever thought about why?
The following poem is about man finding his right mate after a long search:
The End of Longing (I seek no more…)
That which I sought, I have found.
Someone to calm my spirit and give me hope for tomorrow.
Someone to hold, not out of fear, but out of wanting to receive and express genuine tenderness.
Someone with which to share my passions and compassion.
Someone to kiss and caress, not out of lust, but out of longing to experience the union of man and woman before God.
Someone with which it feels so right.
For every man, there is one right woman.
Her Yin complements my Yang. She completes my Deen.
That which I sought, I have found.
And now I am finally content!4
I have interpreted the concept called “Heaven-on-Earth;” it is but an infinitesimal glimpse into Jannah (the ultimate Paradise), and even that view is an understated comprehension! It is about the reunion with God (SWT). This has to be the ultimate ecstasy.
This bliss is but a prelude to the returning, everything good and nirvanic that can ever be imagined!
This feeling is manifested in finding one’s true mate and companion and prolonging that moment of peace and harmony.
When one talks about laying on the beach with one’s mate close by or walking together through a park or wooded area while holding hands as the two of you grow old, this is the reality being referred to.
This is the reason why we should be seeking our “better half” or the “other half of our Deen.”
While we try to summarize the term simply as marriage, this is really what we are trying to emulate.
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Ang Katapusan ng Pananabik (Hinahanap ko pa …)
4 Na ang hinahanap ko, natagpuan ko.
May isang tao na kalmado ang aking espiritu at bigyan ako ng pag-asa para bukas.
May isang tao na humawak, hindi dahil sa takot, kundi dahil sa kulang na tumanggap at magpahayag ng tunay na pagmamahal.
Isang tao kung saan maibabahagi ang aking mga hilig at habag.
May isang tao na halikan at haplos, hindi sa pagnanasa, kundi sa pagnanasa na maranasan ang pagkakaisa ng lalaki at babae sa harap ng Diyos.
Ang isang tao na kung saan ito nararamdaman kaya tama.
Para sa bawat lalaki, may isang matandang babae.
Pinagsasama ng kanyang Yin ang aking Yang. Natapos niya ang aking Deen.
Na ang hinahanap ko, natagpuan ko.
At ngayon ako ay nasisiyahan sa wakas!
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4 Itu yang aku berusaha, aku temukan.
Seseorang untuk menenangkan jiwa aku dan memberikan aku harapan untuk besok.
Seseorang untuk memegang, bukan karena takut, melainkan karena ingin menerima dan mengekspresikan kelembutan asli.
Seseorang yang dapat digunakan untuk berbagi gairah hidup aku dan kasih akung.
Seseorang untuk mencium dan membelai, bukan karena nafsu, melainkan karena kerinduan untuk mengalami persatuan pria dan wanita di hadapan Allah.
Seseorang dengan yang terasa begitu benar.
Untuk setiap pria, ada satu wanita yang tepat.
Yin Yang-nya melengkapi aku. Dia melengkapi aku Deen.
Itu yang aku berusaha, aku temukan.
Dan sekarang aku akhirnya isi!
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4Ce que je cherchais, j’ai trouvé.
Quelqu’un pour calmer mon esprit et me donner de l’espoir pour demain.
Quelqu’un à tenir, non par crainte, mais par manque de recevoir et d’exprimer la tendresse réelle.
Quelqu’un avec qui partager mes passions et la compassion.
Quelqu’un pour embrasser et caresser, non pas de la luxure, mais hors de nostalgie à l’expérience de l’union de l’homme et la femme devant Dieu.
Quelqu’un avec lequel il se sent si droit.
Pour chaque homme, il ya une femme droite.
Son Yin Yang complète mon. Elle termine mon Deen.
Ce que je cherchais, j’ai trouvé.
Et maintenant, je suis finalement content!
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4私が求めていることが、私が発見した。
私の精神を落ち着かせ、私を与えるために誰かが未来に希望を持て。
誰かがいない恐怖から、保持するが、出本物の優しさを受信し、表現したいからする。
私の情熱と思いやりを共有するとの誰か。
誰かがキスと愛撫ではなく、外欲望が、より神の前に男性と女性の労働組合を体験して憧れのために。
それはとても右に感じるていると誰か。
すべての人のために、一つ右の女性があります。
彼女の陰には、私のヤンを補完します。彼女は私のディーンを完了します。
私が求めていることが、私が発見した。
そして今、私は最終的にコンテンツです！
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ما سعيت، لقد وجدت.
شخص ما لتهدئة روحي وتعطيني الأمل في الغد.
شخص ما على عقد، ليس خوفا، ولكن من يرغب في الحصول على والتعبير عن الألم الحقيقي.
شخص ما مع الذي لتبادل العواطف بلدي والرحمة.
شخص ما لتقبيل وعناق، وليس من منطلق الرغبة، ولكن للخروج من يتوقون إلى تجربة الاتحاد بين الرجل والمرأة أمام الله.
شخص ما مع الذي يشعر الحق في ذلك.
لكل رجل، وهناك امرأة واحدة حق.
يين لها يكمل يانغ لي. قالت لي يكمل الدين.
ما سعيت، لقد وجدت.
والآن أنا راض أخيرا!
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这里面我所追求的，我已经找到。
有人来安慰我的心灵，给我希望的明天。
一个人抱着，不是出于恐惧，而是出于想要接受和表达真正的柔情。
有人用它来分享我的激情和同情。
有人亲吻和爱抚，不是出于欲望，而是出于渴望上帝面前来体验男人和女人的结合。
有人用它感觉真好。
对于每一个男人，有一个合适的女人。
她补充阴我阳。她完成了我的迪恩。
这里面我所追求的，我已经找到。
而现在，我终于内容！
This is my beloved 